Ladies : How to attract the right man without looking cheap

"Men almost always do not see the difference between flirting and desperation. So, you need to add class if you want to get the right man"

The first task an adult lady will always face is usually unique and sometimes, very difficult if she's an attractive lady - The task to choose the best man from the pool, the right way.


Looking from afar, I can see ladies making choices based on different criteria. You'll usually hear things like "he's rich", "he's handsome", "he has a well paying job", "he's daring", "he's been around for a while".

All these reasons are decisions made either by emotion or common sense. But I tell you, being a lady isn't easy. While men literally 'point and kill', ladies have to kill a whole lot before pointing. Little wonder our maidens are believed to be complex beings - difficult to understand, difficult to teach and difficult to deal with.

But here, this post will help you(if you're a lady) step up your game. Instead of stressing out about who to pick among the men in your life, you'll just have to focus on attracting the kind of man you want, the right way.

Now, let's do this. Just take a look at your life and relationships. What class of men are coming around? Are they of the same or different class? Do you have a banker chasing you today and a jobless former school mate chasing you the other day?

If the class of men chasing you are widely varied, then you need to step up your game. This means, you need to stop waiting for the kind of men you want. Rather, you have to find the kind of men you want and attract them. Albeit, in style.

Note that there are women who shamelessly chase guys around like their lives depend on it. This is wrong, and this post will not teach you to be like that. Instead, you'll learn to transform yourself and become the lady men want to associate with.

So, how do you start attracting quality men without feeling desperate or cheap?

There are many ways to start attracting the kind of men you want. However, the first step needed is your reputation. You'll have to up your game and improve your class to the level where the type of men you want to attract will start to respect you.

Once you do this, you'll notice the amount of men coming around you will decrease. This is because some inferior men are scared of the lady ego and will almost always cringe at your class. However, you'll still need to make some moves in attracting the kind of men you want. Here are some ideas :-

1. Your friends : Your clique defines who your are and are a very important part of your life. That is why you need to pay attention to the people you associate with. If you have friends who are reputable and popularly classy, you'll find out that the kind of men you'll attract will be top notch.

2. Your dressing : What you wear says a lot about who you are and what you do. In fact, the first thing a person notices about you is your dressing. No matter where you are, if you want to always attract the best men in the park, always dress to be respected. You can add a little touch of sexy. But make sure you draw the line between trendy and fashion craze.

3. Your skill or hobby : Your skill or hobby will take you places. It is what people know you for. Are you a doctor? A nurse? A marketer? An accountant? An artist? A model? You definitely must be something to have class.

The most painful thing in life is seeing ladies who do not have any quality, skill or hobby hoping to 'catch' a man that will provide for their needs. What they get is a thief who takes the remaining of what they have and zooms off. So, for your sake, you need to be doing something that makes you happy to be alive.

I met a lady recently who was a model for 7 years prior to meeting her husband. She told me she was so obsessed about being in shape that she worked out in the gym almost 5 times a week. She paid for a gym class, had a trainer and worked her socks off. Soon after, she started dating and got married to her husband, a fellow gym mate who admired her passion and committment to her modelling career.

Having a passion makes it easier to attract a man who shares the same passion with you. I've met lawyers dating lawyers and models dating models. So, your case can't be any different. Get a qualification, find a passion or hobby today.

4. Your attitude : Your attitude says a lot about your interests, goals and pursuits. If you act cheap, then you're cheap. If you don't, then you're not. Simple. You need to have total control over your emotions if you want to attract men without looking cheap. This means that you don't have to try too hard. If you can understand this, then you're good to go.

Once you prepare yourself and become the right person, with some little flirting skill, you'll always get the type of man you want almost all the time. Do all these, and you are a winner.